Outsourcing Petition.

Hey Everybody!  The other day, in fact, the day of the earthquake, I was going to a meeting and I noticed that the meeting place was by Congresswoman Nydia M. Velasquez's office.  The funny thing about this is that the only song that came to my mind was from the Saturday morning educational cartoons Schoolhouse rock's "I'm only a bill".

I've been teaching my daughter that if she has problem with a business or anything for that matter that she feels is unjust, she could do something about it.  For instance, We had a terrible time at the movie theatre so we complained about our experience at the theatre and we were given 6 free movie vouchers for our discomfort.

We had a problem at a few McDonalds regarding their McFlurry machines and a few attitudes behind the counter and we complained.  They sent us a couple of coupons for free ice cream and coffee drinks.  Then they fixed the problem.  I'm explaining all this because I know that if you know what you are doing, one persons opinion can change anything.

In following what I had learned from the cartoon, I know that a law has to begin with a bill proposed by a congressperson.  Well, I took my daughter in to the office and explained that I am a constituent and that I've written many letters but nothing has even been acknowledged.

They gave me a new e-mail to send it and it will be reviewed.  I would love for those that read the following to comment as much as they want and pass the word so that our Congresswoman can see we are tired of the Bullshit.

I've always believed that charity begins at home.  If we can't support ourselves, why would we support others.  Outsourcing has become such an American Tradition that over 50% of American base companies are hiring others outside because the hourly rates are cheaper.

When we do this, we show our own family that we don't care about each other.  The unemployment rate rises with no hope of diminishing because everyone else outside the USA has our jobs.  What I don't understand is that if we are the main consumers of a product/service here, why not hire within?

I know that the rates are cheaper let's say like in India but I'm pretty sure the government can grant, if they haven't already, special tax breaks for companies that employ Americans.  No offense to their countries but I'm getting tired of talking to people that call themselves Meg when in reality their name is Indira.

That's beginning a conversation with a lie.  How much confidence do I now have with a woman that lied to me already.  I'm writing a letter to my congresswoman and attaching this link to the letter.  I want her to see that we actually do care and we will do anything it takes to make a law that prohibits outsourcing for companies that are either based in America or has Americans buying/using the majority of their products.

If you feel that outsourcing is wrong, please comment and leave your name even if you have to use the anonymous function.  Let Ms. Velasquez know that we are American Citizens and we need jobs.
Thank You.

Getting Over

I've got to say, I think I've been feeling a little better about things.  I'm not missing that person at all.  Although things have gotten tough here and there, I know God has paved a new road for me and I will achieve some sort of joy and happiness in my life.

The lesson I learned about my situation is that I can't control any one's action except my own.  i know, i know, I should have known that from the start but I felt like I knew what i was doing.  When in a relationship, after a while it becomes symbiotic. 

A life where one has a hard time surviving if the other isn't attached.  It makes you a bigger person once the other becomes a leech and starts to drain the life out of you.  Doing stupid things that are both disloyal and disrespectful.

I've been told by some of my closest friends/family to "Snap out of it!"  My usual response was "It's easier said than done."  I know most of you can relate to this but I couldn't.  It was harder than it looks.  I've been blessed.  The storm has completely passed me and I'm looking forward to just being me again.

During the last 5 years, I have lost friend, friendships and a good amount of trust.  Although I feel I had nothing to do with the reasons for my losses, I will take responsibility, if any.  I could have been nicer, could have gone out more, could have let people vent etc.....  

The coulda, shoulda, wouldas are in the past and I really don't want to deal with them now.  What I'm basically saying people is that, I've grown since all this has happened, I may revert a bit every once in a while but I think that I have every right do do that. 

To all that read this, Please have faith that I will be better and I thank all of you that were there when I needed you the most.  Even in the smallest of ways.  That smile that you made me do for telling that stupid joke or even that response to a comment I made.  I know you are there.

To those that like to INFLICT there "Tough Love" on me.  Well, you obviously know that I need it and are not afraid to accept my responses to them as well.  Thank you.

My court date

It's been a while since I posted a blog.  This is more for me to have as a record.  On august 17th, 2011,
I had a date in court.  It was to determine, by the judge, an order of visitation for the kids to visit Texas for two weeks with their mother.

Prior to the court date, my children were interviewed by each individuals lawyers to express what they are feeling about the case and what they want as an outcome.  Without prvocation, my children express to me that they didn't want to go to Texas, more so that they didn't want to meet their mothers boyfriend.

I go to court with the anticipation that everything will be fine and that te Judge will not send them to Texas because the children refuse to go.  When I get there to my surprise my, hopefully soon-to-be ex-wife, is there with her boyfriend.  Having been caught off guard, it REALLY upset me.

I sat down to wait to report in and I sent her a text message.  "That is distastefully disrespectful.  I would have NEVER done that to you, Thank you".  She had nothing to say.  Honestly, I've been told that since it bothered me so much, I must still have feelings for her.

Well, I have news for you guys that said that.  She is still my wife and we just got seperated from a 16 year marriage.  She is the mother of my children and we have many wonderful memories together.  The WHOLE marriage wasn't bad.  It was just the last few years.

So, OF COURSE!  I still love her.  It doesn't mean I want her back andrekindle what we have.  It just means that at one point in our lives we took care of each other and the family!  Anyway, I'm getting off track.  The news that the judge didn't come in to work came and I got happy.

This means that the kids are staying in NY.  After the news, I asked her from a distance if I can speak to her.  Her lawyer saw that and immediately came to represent her.  My lawyer never showed up by the way.  He wasn't supposed to talk to me.

They asked me that since she was only in NY one day, can she visit with the kids.  I was upset.  I explained that what she did was disrespectful and in the midst of aggresive lawyering, I told HER that I would let her know.  I spoke to my brother and he convinced me that its for the kids.

I called her back and told her that she can pick up the kids at 2 and have them back by 6pm.  The only condition was that she follow what her lawyer suggested and have her boyfriend not with her when she is with the kids.  After talking to the kids, they were happy about not going to Texas but still didn't want to meet him.

She agreed and picked them up.  She came back an hour late and the kids told me he showed up and their mother made them promise that they don't tell me that he did,  My daughter was very upset and crying when she got home.  My son was angry because he was forced to meet him when he didn't want to.

I know this long.  I'm very upset for my kids.  I still wonder what was it that I did in my lifetime to be disrespected and abused the way this woman has been doing.  There are a few of you that side with her.  that's fine.  Everyone is entitled to there own opinion.  I just wish that you can walk a mile in my shoes before coming up with one.

Last entry comments

This mornings post is a response to a few comments that were left on the last post.  I totally understand what everybody is saying about Karma and letting it go but I really didn't write it to mean what you guys thought it meant.

Maybe, I need to read what I post before I post it!  LOL...I've been doing better on a daily basis and I have a lot less contempt for my ex than I thought I would.  I don't completely blame her for the negativity in my life but I have reason to believe that some more than not.

Forgiveness comes when the soul has learned to exist with the abuser.  I can't see myself forgiving someone who has hurt my children so much but my satisfaction will come when I see my kids raised in a proper, civil and mostly loved environment.

I learned to take my pain and turn it around and now I am strengthened and much more wiser.  Sorry, back to the ranch, I posted the last entry because I believe in energies that surround me.  Most of us have identified them as entities.  The Almighty Father, Jesus, various Saints and spirits as well as Angels.

I believe and love God so much!  Anyway, To believe in him one must logically believe in the devil.  His energies and spirits can haunt a persons soul.  They are energized by people who hate and envy to the point where you can see/feel them.

That's all I'm saying.  For the record:  I'm almost completely past my situation and are moving on to better and brighter days.  Thanks to my friends.  The few of them that have been there.  God bless and love you all.  Thanks!!

A Cleaning

(This entry is just my mind thinking)

It's been so weird in my house.  I sit on my sofa and I see shadows pass by through the corner of my eye.  As I walk pass the kitchen I feel a chill and goosebumps on my arms.  It can't be anything bad right?

I know that in every Spanish/Black family, there is someone that believes in the spiritual side of life.  I am no exception and what I have learned is sufficiently enough to protect me and my family but I don't know how to get rid of this presence in my home.

I think it's a build up of negative energy being sent my way via people that don't want me to succeed with my kids and life.  I can only speculate who it is but I can't point the finger in that direction.  It is possible but is it plausible?

I guess I will have to do something a Facebook friend taught me and that is to P.U.S.H. "Pray Until Something Happens".  A little Agua Florida and holy water will do some justice as well.  What I need is for that person/s to get what they deserve so, with my prayer I will finish it by saying "Que Dios te multiplique todo lo que tu me deseas" for you non-speaking spanish folk, "May God multiply on you all that you wish on me!"

Then after that, I will have no choice but to clean the mess I have in my house.  It's not dirty, it's just an organized mess!  Thank you for reading my mind a bit!  Enjoy!