Lead by example, PLEASE!

This post will be a little different than all the others.  This post will definitely offend most people but as usual I don't care.  As usual I have taken on my new philosophy that I will do and say what I want because I can.  And, I feel good about it.

I read a post the other day about how women, being mothers, post really sexy and dirty pictures of themselves on facebook.  The comment was chastising these women because the children can see these photos and think its okay.  I totally agree with the comment.

If you are a parent, you must lead by example.  They think of themselves before thinking of their children.  Would you want your daughters disrespected in the streets or on some social network because they post half nude pictures of themselves?

What kind of person does that?  I have to say that it works both ways too.  As I was coming home, I saw a young couple walking with a baby stroller.  They had to be about 15-16 years old.  The father walking next to, what I am going to assume was the baby's mama, look like he was pure street.

That didn't bother me.  I felt so bad for the child when I saw him sagging to the back of his knees!  What kind of example are you going to show your son or daughter?  All that is over when you become a parent.  The chain has to stop at one point or another!

You're going to teach your children tradition that was born in the hollow halls of jails?  Why would you do that? I understand that young people today have to find their own identities but why not find a positive, respectful one? How you perceive yourself is exactly how people see you.

I'm not going to lie.  I had my own fads in high school.  Some of them included straight legs, Adidas lace in checkerboard, kangos, on and on but the moment my son was born, I gave it all up and I started living for me.  I must say I was 29 when he was born but that didn't change a thing.

I thanked God for him and changed my whole outlook on life.  My son was and will be a reflection of me.  He is now, at 16, respectful of others and himself.  He doesn't do drugs or drinks and all because I changed my lifestyle.

It's not just my son, I have nephews and nieces that I need them to see that I am a great uncle.  They love me and come to me for advise and jokes and time with them.  I'm happy I am able to provide that for them.

Finally, and I think this will be the big one, there is a difference between casual drinking and just being obnoxious about the whole thing.  I know people that hang out to the point of not remembering the night before.  These are probably the same people that question their teenagers when they get home an hour late smelling like beer or herb.

Again, the children are products of the parents.  Going out, every freaking weekend, to drink and act like fools, in my opinion, isn't cool.  You guys give the term alcoholic a new name!  You come up with ANY reason to go hang out!  I'm just saying, you guys are old enough to know better.

I'm not saying that I am better than you.  I've done my mis-deeds plenty of times.  That is one of the reasons why I have no sense of smell!  I'm just saying, at what point in your life do you look in the mirror and say to yourself, "That's enough!"

Drinking doesn't get rid of your problems, it just delays them.  Yes, you get a buzz or an outright high but, the reality is, it doesn't last long.  For me to survive on a daily basis, I have to take 13 pills a day.  I'm not proud of it but it all stemmed from what I used to do.

I think that I've written all these words because I truly love and care about some of you and I want you to be happy in your life.  A life that your kids can be proud of.  A safe and healthy life that can be extended for a long time.

"Thirsty Thursdays, Fallout Friday's, Stunk drunk Saturdays" Whatever you want to call them, it all boils down to the same thing.  Talk about a rut! It's truly sad to hear that a friend has passed away because they had cirrhosis of the liver or because they got into an accident while intoxicated.

I lost a good friend because he got drunk and broke his neck.  He was a para for years until it was time.  If he were here today, he would be cursing everybody out! He was just that type of guy. He would be shaking his head at all the idiots out there.

I say this because I care.  You can take this advise and throw it out like an old newspaper or you can learn from other peoples mistakes. As far as the young people, understand that EVERYBODY gets old, oh and don't get upset when the cops profile you and harass you simply because you are sagging or dealing or drinking a beer.

That's just part of life, right?  You and your bad self!  Remember, this is just one man's opinion.  I'm sure that many agree with me and many don't. I really don't care, it's just something I'd thought I had to say.  Have a great one!

Energies

Every once in a while, I get deep in thought and conversation and I want to talk about things that are not to be talked about.  Such as religion, politics and so forth.  Today I want to talk about how I feel about spirituality.

It is important that those that read this understand that it is my opinion and it doesn't reflect on anything or anybody in the subject matter.

When asked about my religion I find it hard to answer.  There is no name for what I believe in.  I've probably spoken about this before but I want to make certain that it is said.  Maybe, others can understand their confusion when they read what I have to say.

To me, spirituality is all about energies.  The energies we put out in the world, the energies that come back to us and the energies that are already out there. Everybody feels them and rely on them.  Faith and hope are energies.  Positive ones.  Love and Loyalty are also positive energies.

Believe it or not, every religion has these energies and they are identified with certain names but they are still the same.  In the Christian beliefs, the great energies are God and the Almighty Father Jesus Christ.  Let's not forget the Holy Spirit which in itself is obviously an energy.

When we pray, we call upon these energies to come down and protect us, find love for us, keep us moving.  For something that is asked, the energy is there.  The truer you feel about it, the more possible will be the results.

We have negative energies as well.  Some call them the "Enemy", the devil or evil spirits.  It has to be named to determine the differences when they appear.  Lust, Envy, Jealousy, the list goes on and on.

Some people can manipulate these negative energies with their minds just by thinking bad about someone.  I've seen it happen.  I've said, "I hope she falls on her face", out of anger and right in front of me, the woman fell and hurt herself.  i was happy at the time it happened but then I felt bad.

Thoughts like that can be transmitted and they work.  You have to believe. I've noticed that persons looking for help from God, have changed the way they think and are.

Having done that, their lives have dramatically changed.  They see a future and feel that God has stepped in and helped them.  It's wonderful when someone connects with themselves and their God.  Whomever it may be.

The other day, I was reading that a Facebook friend posted that he is an Atheist.  The post stated that he didn't want to answer any questions as to why he is one and yet, if you kept reading, he explains the reasons he is one.  I find that a little hypocritical. If you want to make a statement like that, more power to you but, just like you don't want to hear that I believe in God, I don't want to hear that you don't.

There are boundaries that need to be respected and I hope that by me saying so, they will be.  If you are deep into your religion, God Bless you.  If you are a lapsed ANYTHING, God bless you. Just understand that being human in itself means that there is energy within you.

As you live your life, you learn that Karma does exist and that it's inevitable.  We all know that Karma is the energy you put out that will ABSOLUTELY come back to you 7 fold.  If you do good, you will be good.  If you do bad, you will get whats coming to you.

The Christians have it from the bible, "Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord!" The Buddhist believe in Karma, either in this life or the next.  Again, It's all about energy.  When I pray, I pray to God the Father.  Sometimes I say the prayer that was taught to me and other times I just speak to him.

I thank him for all that he has given me.  I ask him to continue to protect and keep safe my children. I also ask him to bring joy to them because they have suffered enough.  In asking this, I have changed my attitude and that has helped me a long way too.

I have removed/limited those friends that ALWAYS bring negativity to every situation. Those that prefer to TRY to run your life instead of dealing with their own problems.  Those that tell you to drink and be merry when you don't drink or smoke. those that put you down and believe that they are better than you.  I worry about people like that.

Keeping them at a distance makes me know who my friends really are.  The positive energy known as the Holy Spirit has guided me to where I am today.  So in conclusion, Be careful of your true intentions for when they are let out, they may affect you in ways that you weren't expecting.

I send great positive energy to those that read this.  No offense but "God Bless all".