"Is there any way a person can get out of the "Buddy", "Amigo" or "Friend" Zone?"

Sometimes I have to laugh.  I posted a question on facebook yesterday and the reactions were informative.  The question was: "Is there any way a person can get out of the "Buddy", "Amigo" or "Friend" Zone?"  Many responses and the reality is that the question was not for me.

I mean, I asked that question for two reasons, 1. I wanted to get a good conversation going. ( It's been a while!) 2. A friend asked me and I didn't have the answer for him.  I had to pose the question as if it were mine because if he did it, the girl would know.

For some reason, I like doing these things for my friends.  Even though I probably put myself in situations with others, I often find myself having to explain.  Like I'm doing now.  The responses were great but it didn't help him.  He lost her as a friend because he is too embarrassed to be around her.

What's worse is that I believe someone misconstrued OUR friendship because she probably read the question and thought it was her.  I hope that was not the case but nevertheless, I have to make sure she knows it wasn't her.

Most people that know me, know that I am now getting used to being alone.  I am enjoying it immensely.  I am now definitely sure that I am not ready for a relationship.  Many of my friends agree to that even tho I am separated for the last 2 1/2 years.

The truth of the matter is that I am lacking in "Physical" communications (Wink Wink!) but other than that, I'm great!  With the help of a few of my close friends, I've been able to take back what my ex-wife took from me.  My self-esteem and I'm happier for it.

I'm ready to move on with my play by making it first to a indie film and I am still raising my kids which, coincidentally, would probably be a factor in me dating someone.  You know, "baggage" and all.  Admittedly, there are a few facebook friends that I would like to get to know a little better but I know it would be harder to work out.

I keep it simple and usually wait for the woman to flirt or make her move therefore giving me the option of "yes" or "no".  It may sound a little vain but when it comes to rejection, I can get depressed and I've had it being in that state of mind.  I'm done with that.

To those that read my blog.  I appreciate you reading it and getting to know me more than the others that don't read it.  I enjoy writing it when I can and I will continue to do so.  I want to finish by saying that, usually, my private life is just that "Private".  I hope when "It" finally happens  I will be able to keep it between the woman and myself.

LOL.....Any takers?  

x

Just stirring up the minds! (Freedom of Speech)

Today, I would like to discuss freedom of speech.  But I would like to discuss both sides.  It would be hypocritical to defend this right, for example, if you have a problem with anyone making racists remarks.

I honestly believe that our forefathers, as ignorant as some of them were, were on the right track in allowing of free citizen to say whatever he wants to say without persecution.  Unfortunately, they would have never been able to predict how our speech patterns affect our lives today.

Back then, it was okay to use the words "Nigger" or "Unclean" when describing a person of color/slave.  They didn't consider the slaves anywhere near human to think of them as equals.  The utmost in ignorance a human being can be.

To me, people are human.  That is the race I see.  "If you cut us, do we not bleed?"  Our founding fathers and subsequently, their immediate ancestors attempted to continue their ignorance for years to come after the constitution was signed.  

Fortunately, to that end, we were blessed with a President with enough foresight  and compassion to recognize the true spirit of the preamble, "That all men are created equal". He was the major part of freeing the slaves and stepping us forward into a slave free society.

This brings me to today's society.  As disgusting as this may sound, shouldn't you be able to say whatever you want in this country?  Is it illegal, for example, to say in basic conversation, something like "Black people should know their place in this country"?  Should it matter if it was said deep in redneck "Bama" country or in the state of Maine?

Doesn't the constitution grant us the "Unconditional" right to that freedom?  To say whatever the hell we want?  Since the construction of that right, there have been many amendments added to it.  (I'm assuming now.)  Our freedom of speech doesn't grant the right to yell "FIRE!" in a crowded movie theater.

Nor does it allow to place anyone's life in danger because of the words used.  Placing restrictions on our speech, to me, nullifies that freedom and we are no longer free to say what we want.  I personally enjoy this freedom.  For if it didn't exist, I wouldn't have been able to even write this blog.

"Hate" crimes are my biggest argument.  When a "White" person beats someone while using prejudiced remarks, when caught, he goes to jail charged with a hate crime in which his penalties are about 10X worse then what they would be had he kept his mouth shut.

Please answer me this question because I truly don't know the answer.  Does it go down as a "hate" crime if the roles were reversed and you hear "Honky or cracker" as they beat a white man down?  I hate to ask but doesn't EVERYBODY have the right to say what they want even if they are in a heated debate or fight?

Throughout this whole blog, I've been laughing because even though it's all truly stupid, it's funny to me because it's true.  i love playing devils advocate and placing minds to work.  I've come to the conclusion that EVERYBODY is a racist, one way or another.  

You can have opinions against, Races, classes, genders, fashion statements and even intelligence.  It's all about ignorance, how we think and what we are allowed to say.  I remember being called a spic when I was younger.  It was when I lived in Massachusetts for a spell and I was one of five different races in a junior high school.

I hated it but I ate it.  What got me more upset was that a girl made fun of my NY accent in class.  i just wanted to punch her at her throat.  (This was all before I went to Seward and learned to protect myself with words!)  According to our forefathers, It was legal to be called a Spic and that girl had every right to make fun of me.  

I'm just saying that no one can actually say they are "Free" in this country or anywhere else for that matter.  God bless you all and thanks for reading!  Remember, just my opinion.  If you don't like what I said, don't read it anymore.  1st amendment!!!!  LOL