Thursday, April 11, 2013

Taking Advantage

Lately, thank God, I've been having calm, good thoughts regarding everyone and how not to judge them.  But every once in a while a topic comes up that has to be discussed.  Today's topic "Low Self-esteem in young girls and how they are taken advantage of.

You know, I'm 46 years old and up to now I must say that I have seen many things in my life.  I'm sure, however, that life will bring me more things to leave me in awe and amazement.

In high school, I have known young girls that, after being a long time with a boy, breaks up and went into depression.  The self-esteem went down and they felt like it was their fault so they brushed off boys for good.

I thank God I wasn't the type they hated but nevertheless they were upset.  It became the norm.  Some girls got over it keeping their minds occupied until they feel better, while others were attacked by the last person they thought would be that way.

I know one girl who had a BFF that seemed to never go out with a boy.  Pretty and kind of tomboyish, she would never leave the side of this one girl.  The girl broke up with her boyfriend and instead of being there for her, she took advantage  of her low self-esteem and made a pass at her.

The girl did not know what had hit her and after saying "Yes" to everything, the gay girl convince the other girl that she too was gay.  It seemed right, after all the gay girl told her the exact things she needed to hear to comfort her. What could go wrong, right?

Well, suffice it to say, that didn't go to well for them.  The gay woman was so jealous of both boys and girls, she made the other girl feel even more depressed than before.

The poor girl started to ignore her and she was beaten up for it.  Obviously because the gay girl had something to prove.  Anyway, that relationship finished the day it got physical.

I want to say that my friend, the young straight girl, is married with children, living down south somewhere.  It's obvious that I will not say who it was.  I also want to point out that the guys weren't innocent in this girls life either.

Yes, she was that gorgeous and in my opinion, still is.  Anyway, the guys all tried to do a full court press on her to take advantage of how she was feeling as well.  I think that's so fucked up.  I tried being a friend to her and I was.

She was a little uncomfortable at first but then when she saw that I didn't expect anything from her we became closer friends and are now.  I actually think it was me that caused her gay friend to fight with her.  Hey, it's not my fault we became close!  It just happened that way.

Today, I was reading the status of a young friend of mine that went to school with my son.  She sounds sad and very depressed.  Se ants to kill off all the men and find a beautiful woman.  I have no problem with being gay, experimenting or anything else like that but I just want her to be careful and not something for the wrong reasons that she will regret forever.

If it turns out that she is gay then God bless, again, I hope she realizes whatever she is with a clear head and an open heart.  I'm sure God will guide her and she will feel so much better when he does.

Remember, as always, this is just my opinion.

Monday, April 1, 2013

Nothing is for free!

I was told a story one time that required an answer and tested my morals.  Let me ask the question as I was asked:  A boy, who seemed hungry and poor, stood inside of a bakery enjoying the smell of freshly baked bread.  He just stood standing next to the aisle where the bread was placed.

The owner of the bakery kept an eye on him at all times.  It was the first time that this boy had been in his store even though he had seen him in his neighborhood.  In the time it took the owner to turn and get a customer a loaf of bread, the boy grabbed another loaf and attempted to run out the store.

Since it was early afternoon, the store began to get full and the child ran into other customers causing him to get pulled by the owner.  The child was asked why did he do it?  The owner asked the question because depending on his answer, he would either call the cops or let him go.

The child simply said he was hungry.  In the world that is today, what do you do as the owner?  Do you let him go and feed him even though you condone stealing or do you call the cops and have him arrested?

Now with the situation above, I know I will get many differences of opinions.  The reason I set it up is because my question matters like the one above.

What is the use of imprisoning people if all they are going to do is come back out to the same corner, dealing the same thing, to the same people? I think the more basic question is, Is there any situation that you can't change that would always have you constantly breaking the law?

Maybe it's just me and I'm ignorant.  I see things in a different light.  I know people that work hard all their lives just to make ends meet and get screwed over constantly and others who don't do a damn thing but found a way to get over the system.  these are the same people that use their benefit cards to buy hot pork chops with tostones from the corner bodega!

Look, I have found it much better not to judge anyone.  Sometimes, tho, it has to be done!  In all fairness, and I mean in all fairness to everyone, why should I pay taxes or owe the government money to pay for your non-working, non-taking a bath, hanging out in the corner, baby-making asses!?!

Then, you are intimidating your neighbors so that people can fear you and for all you know, those same people can just come and blow you away!  Being in jail does nothing else but hone your skills as a criminal.  You can learn many a trade there without having to pay for college.

The only difference is that you don't get a degree.  Hard Knox isn't just good enough.  Also, instead of breaking the ignorance chain, they continue and pass it on to their children.  And they wonder why they end up in jail or dead or other bad things that happen to them.

I have news for you. We live in the 21st century.  Nothing is owed to you.  You may look like a prince, handsome and charming or whatever but you need to earn what is it that you get.  fucking get a job and an education and move on with your life!

I know that what some people see as right, others may see as wrong and I understand that.  I accept constructive criticism always.  If it is done properly and respectful, I can change my life.  Only if it changes for the betterment of me and my children.

I should be able to walk down the street without my daughter asking to walk another way because some funny-looking, street thugs with sagging pants are on our way home.  You know it's obvious what they are doing which begs the question, where the hell are the cops?  Is it donuts time!!!!

Parents, take a look at your children and decide for yourself if you are doing good by them.  If you have ANY doubts then you are not doing a great job.  The life your children lead are a direct reflection of you.  Be proud and raise them to be proud.  Work and earn for the family.  Not sit back, relax and enjoy the ride.

Nothing is for free.