too much power

Today's subject is that of principal power. Yesterday, I picked up my daughter from school and she immediately showed me her shoes.  They had broken from heel to toe and the sole was being held by about an inch of contact.


I sent her to school today and she wore sandals with her uniform.  I figured since it was half a day and it was the second to last day of school, there will be no problems regarding the shoes. Little did I know that it was a problem.


I received a call this morning from the secretary and she told me that the principal asked that i bring her a pair of shoes because she was not allowed to wear sandals in school.  I told her about the school shoes broken and she explained to the principal.


The principal did not budge.  She said that if I don't send her the shoes, she will spend the rest of the day by the her office doing her school work.  After relaying that to me, I told the secretary that I will be picking her up from school.


I've always respected rules because I believe that they are in place for a reason.  I also believe that unless it has to do with life or death, rules can be bent a little to show consideration.  If my little had no fault in the fact that her shoes broke, especially after a whole years usage, she should not have been singled out and separated from the others.


I picked her up and we had a daddy-daughter day.  I took a step back to analyze why wouldn't the principal cut my daughter a break especially since the school year was technically done.


My conclusion, reputation is very important to her.  She has to make sure that everyone knows that she is in charge.  The problem with that is that the reputation also comes with a bad side and that bad side is the fact that she is heartless.


I was told that she was somewhat of a bitch even before I placed her in the school.  I think that she enjoys being hated and thought of that way and relies on that to be respected.  When it comes to her position, I feel that she has to be flexible.


I would rather be loved and respected than hated and feared.  Unfortunately, my daughter will be missing an ice cream sundae party tomorrow because I don't have for the shoes right now.  


I will make it up for her on Sunday when she comes back from visiting with her mom. I will not make a deal about this now but in September I will bring it up in conversation.  More with honey than with vinegar.

"Beating around the bush"

Today I just wanted to touch base on the idea of "Beating around the bush".  In all my years, I've learned how to accurately read people.  Their body language, the speech patterns and obviously, even the faces one puts on can tell you exactly how they feel.

I find it harder, however, when I'm being text and/or talking on the phone because I can't see the person in front of me.  So, like any other normal person, I come to assume what you are actually saying.

I speak to people often and find that they say one thing and mean another.  Usually, the total opposite of how they really feel.  That's okay but it definitely gets tiring and I know that some people use that as a defense mechanism because they have been hurt too many times in their lives.

Some few examples of what I mean, for instance, If I invite someone somewhere or make plans with them, I really look forward to those plans.  I hear the enthusiasm in their voice and I even get more excited because it sounds like fun.

Unfortunately, in all the excitement the reality is that they were saying one thing and meaning another.  They never confirm with you and when you finally get in touch with them, they made other plans.  My question at this point is "Why lead me on?"

The truth is easier to handle so that I can make adjustments.  I don't take anything to heart anymore except when that is done to me, I change my routine so that I fit you in and it messes me up. Don't lead me on if you are not going to go thru with it.

Another example is, when I speak to certain people on the phone or via text.    They begin to tell me how they feel when I know that they are feeling the total opposite.  Not only can I sense it, I can hear it as well.  They want to tell me something but the guilt that they feel do not allow them to do so.  It's either guilt or pride.

Either way, it's not a good thing.  I totally believe in the truth.  If you say what you feel from the get, the feelings would be less hurt.  This "Beating around the bush" deal has got to stop.  C'mon people, if you don't like me then say it and we will deal with that.  And this definitely goes to some of my "So called friends"  who look at me with one face and talk shit behind my back.  I know it to be true just by the way you look at me, let alone the comments I get from people we know.

I lost a friendship that I had for 30 years.  We were the best of friends and by saying one thing to me and then saying another to someone else, he took a chance at losing the friendship and lost.  I miss my friend and for some reason lately I have been thinking about him.  I would never speak about anybody badly to impress someone else.  Anyway, it goes to show that you never know who's listening.

I wanted this to be short and sweet but I guess I just couldn't do it.  LOL Put all your pride and guilt aside and say what's on your mind.  If I am a true friend to you, you won't lose that.  However, remember, it works both ways.  If you can do it for me, I can do it for you and even though it may hurt at first, I would consider it the best for both of us.

Have a great day!  #Speaking Truth!

Religion and Politics.

Wow!  Where do I begin?  I mean, my dear Grandfather always taught me never to argue those two topics because they could be deadly. I know he was referring to the topic of politics specifically because in Puerto Rico, if you say something wrong to the wrong party, you could die, quickly!

To give you a short scenario, I have a friend that just happens to be an ex, that is now a Jehovah's Witness.  As usual, I respect all religions as long as you don't push yours on me.  Anyway, we were having a great conversation until it went the wrong way, Religion.

I tried explaining to her that in "MY OPINION", I'm good with my feelings on religion.  I know that God almighty loves me and that I will be saved as long as I believe and submit to Jesus Christ as my Savior.  I try to treat others as they should be treated and I sincerely believe that all God wants for us is to be happy.

I know her intentions are good intentions and that she is just trying to help me, but I also know that she has been programmed to be the way she is when it comes to that.  For some reason, however, I feel that she wants to break out of that position and be who she used to be herself and when she feels like she is about to stray, she quickly turns to the bible.

Of course, that's her decision.  I respect that.  But again, please don't get upset if I don't want to hear it.  This lead to a very heated "Debate" and I attempted to end it as we usually do, let's "Agree to disagree" but for some reason this time, she refused.  Don't know why.

Okay, for this one time, I will give you an idea of what my feelings are about religion.  I was raised Catholic.  Of course when I was younger it was the hip religion to be in.  I didn't know better because I was a baby and a young lad in Catholic school.

After learning about different ones, I come to the conclusion that there has to be some sort of compromise in the middle.  There is one constant in all religions and that is that there is ONE Supreme Being.  Whether it is God, Allah, Jehovah, Buddha, etc....

The beliefs stand that you follow the teachings of this being.  If you really look at it, the actual spirit of the Bible, Torah and so forth, say the same thing.  "Treat others as you would want to be treated."  That's why it's called the golden rule.

These Spirits/energies that we believe in are all around and have a tendency of making us feel good and leading us in the directions that we need to go.  That is, of course, if you truly and honestly believe in them.

Yes, if you were to ask me what is my "Religion" I would answer Christian Catholic.  I think I am, however, a freelance Christian Catholic and I enjoy it very much.  More of a Charismatic Conservative if you will.  If I can respect yours, please give me the courtesy of respecting mine.

"Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you"

As far as my friend, the JW.  I will always love you for the friend that you are.  I hope that this doesn't get you upset with me.  Either way, I know where I stand.  Thanks for listening, I enjoyed writing this entry.